Domestic Violence Activism Month 2020

October. You know what that means, right? Pumpkins, apples and Domestic Violence Activism Month. No, that’s not a typo. Partners for Peace asks you to join us in a month full of activism opportunities to advocate for every person’s right to feel safe in their relationships, homes, and communities. We knew that this month was likely to look different due to COVID-19, but given the current state of our nation, we are changing up our efforts this year and from here on. These are uncertain times we are living in. Marginalized people are rising up and speaking their truths and we are listening, learning and amplifying their voices in service of the liberation of all oppressed people. Black, Indigenous, People of Color, Immigrant, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer survivors need us now more than ever. Come along with us as we push ourselves outside of our comfort zones into a brave space of learning, growing and evolving together.

Get Involved

Map out your month of activism by checking out our Guide to Domestic Violence Activism Month and engage with us throughout the month on Facebook, Instagram (@partnersforpeace), and Twitter (@PartnersMaine).

COVID-19

Given the current state of emergency, we have chosen to forego any in-person events in order to do our part to limit the spread of the COVID-19 virus. While this isn’t exactly what we had in mind for Domestic Violence Activism Month, we are certain we can rise to the occasion and raise awareness about domestic violence without our usual walks and events. 

The COVID-19 pandemic has had devastating consequences for people living with abusive partners and family members. People who are abusive are taking advantage of social distancing and quarantine practices to further isolate their victims. Domestic violence survivors need you and we have many ways for you to help from home. 

 

About Domestic Violence Activism Month

October is Domestic Violence Activism (Awareness) Month (DVAM). Each October, communities across the nation join together to recognize the prevalence of domestic violence and honor those who have been affected by violence with vigils, walks, and other awareness-raising activities.

DVAM was first recognized in October of 1987. To learn more about the history of DVAM, check out this infographic.

 

Events & Activism Opportunities

 

October 7th, 12:00 pm| UMaine March Against Domestic Violence

The 7th Annual UMaine March Against Domestic Violence is being held virtually this year! The march will be held Wednesday, October 7th at 12:00 Noon. Partners for Peace and many other groups, organizations, and speakers will be participating. Come join us in raising awareness of domestic violence and standing against it!

To learn more about the event, please visit: https://www.facebook.com/…/UMaine-March-Against-Domestic-V…/

 

October 14th, 12:00 pm| Knowledge Empowers Campaign Children’s Book Facebook Event

As part of our virtual events this year we are celebrating our children’s selection for the Knowledge Empowers Campaign with a Facebook event!  We will be livestreaming a short introduction from our Children’s Advocate and a video of the author, Matt de la Pena, reading his book Love. We encourage all children, families, and interested parties to watch with us. It’s sure to be a heart-warming event!

 

October 27th, 6:00 – 7:30 pm| Hearing Our Voices: Diversity and Inclusion in the Anti-Violence Movement Zoom/Facebook Event

Location: Zoom | https://zoom.us/j/96167209737

As individuals, advocates and community members, how can we work together to address the needs of those who are affected by abuse and living on the margins, such as Black, Indigenous, and LGBTQ+ folks, people who are differently-abled, people living with mental health challenges, people who use substances, immigrants and refugees?

Join us for a panel discussion of truth and reckoning. Such an important conversation cannot be missed. We will have the honor of hearing from:

  • Samaa Abdurraqib (She/Her), Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence
  • Pat Graffam (She/Her), Penobscot Nation Domestic & Sexual Violence Advocacy Center
  • Dina Yacoubagha (She/Her), Community Member & Candidate for Bangor City Council 
  • Maya Williams (They/Them & She/Her), MaineTransNet
  • Fatuma Hussein (She/Her), Immigrant Resource Center of Maine

RSVP for this event on the Partners for Peace Facebook Page. ASL, language interpretation, and learning accommodations available upon request. Please email Casey at cfaulkingham@partnersforpeaceme.org

 

All of October| The Clothesline Project

The Clothesline Project began in 1990 on Cape Cod as an effort to bear witness to the epidemic of violence against women and to help survivors and those who care about them heal. The first clothesline carried 31 shirts in different colors, each color-coded and decorated to represent a particular victim or survivor experience.  Since its inception, the Clothesline Project has grown into an international effort, with more than 500 projects throughout the world.

We are excited to partner with Tea and Tarts again this year to host The Clothesline Project in the Addams Art Gallery all month long! Tea and Tarts is located at 20 State Street in Bangor and they serve a wide variety of tea, baked goods and they cater to any and all dietary restrictions and choices. 

 

All of October| Knowledge Empowers Campaign

Every year, Partners for Peace donates books (a children’s book, young adult book, and adult book) to all public and school libraries in Penobscot and Piscataquis Counties.  All books are carefully selected by our staff and carry messages of kindness, respect, and hope for anyone affected by abuse.

This year, we wanted our selections to teach about Love, Justice and Truth. We chose books that lift up the voices and experiences of marginalized people and that inspire us to take action to advocate for change. We believe we have succeeded in this mission, but you be the judge.

Check out this year’s selections at a library near you:

Picture with books on a purple background with teal flowers on the border

Adult book – Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall

Young Adult Book – Watch Us Rise by Renee Watson and Ellen Hagan

Children’s Book – Love by Matt de la Pena

 

All of October| Invest In Our Mission

Donate to Partners for Peace in the month of October and you will be entered to win a limited edition purple purse from The Allstate Foundation. The Foundation is dedicated to ending domestic violence through the financial empowerment of survivors.

This limited-edition purse was donated by The Allstate foundation. One of the Foundation’s primary programs is dedicated to ending domestic violence through the financial empowerment of survivors. The purse is symbolic of the Allstate Foundation’s program because purple is the color of domestic violence awareness and purses are a symbol of a person’s financial domain. This cross-body bag is equal parts beauty and efficiency. Its rich purple hue and simple modern lines make it both elevated and adaptable, as appropriate for afternoon errands and an evening event. Its delicate strap offers a variety of ways to style the piece into a range of personal and professional looks. Produced in extremely limited quantities, the estimated retail value of the purse is $350.

How do you win?  

Donate $100+ to Partners for Peace in the month of October and you will be entered 1 time to win the purple purse. 

Donate $500+ to Partners for Peace in the month of October and you will be entered  5 times to win the purple purse. 

Donate $1,000+ to Partners for Peace in the month of October and you will be entered 10 times to win the purple purse.

Join us on Facebook LIVE on October 31st at 10 AM for the reveal of the winner! Attendance is not necessary to win. 

Donate securely online at www.partnersforpeaceme.org/donate or mail a check to PO Box 653, Bangor, ME 04402. 

 

 

All of October| Lawn Sign Fundraiser

“No Excuse for Domestic Abuse” and “No Excuse for Partner Abuse” signs are available for $25 each. Make your position on domestic and relationship abuse clear and spread the word about 24-hour helpline services for anyone affected by abuse. There are two options:

  • Purple – “No Excuse for Domestic Abuse” – Blank space in the center is for you to customize and make a statement. Get your Cricut or sharpies ready! Here are some ideas for customization
    • “In honor of ________”
    • “In memory of _______”
    • “I stand with survivors.”

 

  • Pride – “No Excuse for Partner Abuse” – LGBTQ+ and BIPOC folks experience partner abuse at much higher rates than white, cisgender women. This sign features all of the colors of the Inclusive Pride Flag. Help us spread the word that there is no excuse for abuse against LGBTQ+ and BIPOC people! 

Signs are double-sided and come with metal stakes to affix into the ground. Order your sign(s) today! Signs can be picked up at our Bangor or Dover-Foxcroft Resource Centers on Friday, October 9th or 23rd between the hours of 8:30am-12:30pm or delivered within a 20 mile radius of Bangor or Dover-Foxcroft. 

*We have a limited supply of each sign to start, but we plan to re-restock depending on the demand. We apologize in advance if this causes a delay in availability. 

 

All of October| Finding Our Voices

We are pleased to partner with Finding Our Voices to promote awareness about the impact of domestic violence. Currently, Finding Our Voices has banners posted in the towns of Dexter, Newport, and Dover-Foxcroft with more coming soon to Millinocket and Lincoln. To learn more about the Window Banners Project and more, please visit Finding Our Voices at findingourvoices.net.

Patrisha McLean is a writer and photographer specializing in putting a face on, and giving a voice to, social injustice.  Patrisha launched Finding Our Voices on Valentine’s Day 2019 as an exhibit in her hometown library of portraits and audio of fellow survivors of intimate partner abuse.  More than half the women featured in this exhibit lived in her community.

Finding Our Voices marshals the Voices of Survivors, creativity of community members and support of the business community to boldly break the silence of intimate partner abuse. Talking about it will bring it out of the shadows of shame and into the light, for peace and justice for the victim/survivor and accountability for the perpetrator. 

Be on the lookout for these banners in a town near you! 

 

All of October| Volunteer Opportunities

If you are a Partners for Peace volunteer and you’d like to get help out, please connect with Bree at bbelair@partnersforpeaceme.org. Here are a few tasks we need help with:

  • Selling and delivering lawn signs
  • Providing helpline coverage to help build capacity 
  • Creating and sharing social media content
  • And more!

If you are not yet a volunteer, but would like to get involved, sign up on our website! 

 

This October, there are so many ways to take action against domestic violence and we hope you will join us in our efforts. If you have any questions about any of our events or how you can get involved, please connect with Casey Faulkingham at cfaulkingham@partnersforpeaceme.org.

 

We hope you will join us in taking action this October! #TakeActionMaine #iamapartnerforpeace #partnersforpeace